Mathilde Friis - Purity, Monstrosity, Her PhD and Slut Shaming

In the first episode of the #teakink Power Miniseries, Eva Oh unpacks the nature of power through the lens of domination and submission. What is power, really? How does context shape who holds it, and what happens when those dynamics shift? She reflects on how her time as a Dominatrix reshaped her own sense of power—both in and out of the dungeon—and how others reacted to that transformation. With power being both intoxicating and treacherous, Eva explores the risks, the artistry, and why true power demands self-investigation.Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaohMore on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.comHIGHLIGHTS:Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink(00:21) - Power Miniseries I: Lessons from a Dominatrix(02:05) - What is Power?(03:30) - Context and Power in Domination and Submission(07:25) - How Being a Dominatrix Changed My Power(11:15) - How Others React to the Changes(16:20) - The Art and Danger of Playing with Power Dynamics(22:54) - Power: Delicious, Dangerous, Needs Self-Investigation

11 Maalis 24min

What is a Dominatrix, as told by a Dominatrix. Eva Oh meets some newbies to the scene who inspire her to explain the basics of the role of a Dominatrix, what happens in session, how clients make requests and where it all happens. With some additional important notes, on power.Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaohMore on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.comHIGHLIGHTS:Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink(00:21) - Why Answer an ‘Obvious’ Question?(01:44) - What is a Dominatrix and What Do They Do?(03:35) - What Happens in a Dominatrix Session?(04:20) - How Do Clients Know What They Want?(05:50) - More About a Dominatrix Session(06:40) - Where Do Dominatrix Work?(08:50) - Power, A Miniseries?(10:00) - Lessons on Women, Myself, Money and Power

4 Maalis 14min

Ever wondered about breaking free from those conforming roles we play? I'm Eva Oh, and I'll take you on my unconventional journey into the world of the Dominatrix. It started with a joke from my ex about my assertiveness. Little did I know this would lead me to becoming one. Brace yourself as I guide you through uncharted territory, on how I quit the corporate world, to sharing my first day on the job as a Dominatrix, and recounting my exhilarating first session. Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaoh More on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.com HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:15) - Becoming a Dominatrix (01:39) - Women's Assertiveness and Societal Perceptions (04:51) - From Strategic Consultant to Dominatrix (08:51) - First Day as Mistress, New Experiences (15:06) - A Special First Shadowing Experience (21:10) - Exploring BDSM and Personal Enjoyment (27:56) - Work Dungeon to Personal Business Transition (33:40) - The Power of Non-Judgmental Intimacy (35:35) - Sex Work and Society's Perception

25 Helmi 37min

Meet Jane Grey, Dominatrix and Co-Founder of the Scene and Unscene events. Listen in as Jane opens up about how validation, agency and recognition, drivers behind her acting career, influence her approach to domination; about her plans for the Edinburgh Fringe Festival; and how acting school shunned female sexuality. Eva Oh and Jane discuss the place of acting in a session, if they might be able to submit and how they've tried to escape the ego through the names that they've chosen. We hear about cultural theatrics and how they could shape a Dominatrix's ability and the different ways these two Dominatrices structure their businesses. A very thorough episode of the #teakink Podcast. Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaoh More on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.com HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the video episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:00:23) - Jane Grey - Dominatrix, Event Organiser and on a Good Path (00:02:20) - How The Scene and UnScene Events Came About (00:09:15) - The Scene Difference, the Bartenders Bar for Kink (00:14:00) - Authenticity as a Purpose (00:16:10) - How Acting and Drama School Shuns Sexuality (00:20:15) - Validation, Agency, Recognition and the Similarities in Acting and Domination (00:25:10) - South East Asian vs British Theatrics and Social Cohesion (00:27:35) - Growing Star Quality in Professional Domination through Improv Classes (00:29:00) - Moving Around and Growing Adaptability (00:30:35) - Anaesthetising the Ego for Joy (00:32:00) - The Stage vs The Session vs Being a Woman, Is There a Difference? (00:36:30) - How to Go From Personal Kinkster to Professional Dominatrix (00:38:30) - The De-Centring of Our Names - 'Oh' and 'Jane Grey' (00:44:30) - Finding Our Version of Dominance, Visually (00:46:05) - Eva Craving Submission? (00:50:20) - Our Visit to the Edinburgh Fringe Festival and Jane's Show Plans (00:54:50) - Who Do We Tell About Our Job? (00:57:00) - Jane's Subscription Model (01:00:30) - Eva's Cis-het Male Clients vs Her Femme Friends (01:03:50) - The Evolution of Eva's Business Model (01:04:50) - Jane's Plans with the WMH&I Branding Agency, Show Writing and Event Planning (01:09:00) - Eva's Plans on Labours of Love

18 Helmi 1h 12min

Biomedical engineer and sex tech entrepreneur Isabella Sandak-Lewin joins Eva Oh on the #teakink Podcast to break down the gaps in medicine’s understanding of female sexuality. From the forgotten science of the female orgasm to the struggles of innovating in sex tech, Isabella shares her journey of developing a wearable sex toy and a diagnostic tool for BV. They explore the orgasm gap, cross-dressing, pole dancing at Cambridge, and the link between sexuality and personal freedom. Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaoh More on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.com HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the video episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:23) - Isabella Sandak-Lewin - Biomedical Engineer and Sex Tech Entrepreneur (01:53) - The Forgotten Interaction of Body, Medicine and Sexuality (05:40) - Medicine Forgot the Female Orgasm (10:15) - The Orgasm Gap (12:40) - Isabella's Wearable Sex Toy (18:13) - Isabella's BV and More Diagnosis Tool (24:40) - Adolescence, Ballet and Eating Disorders (29:30) - Cross-Dressing and How Women and Men are Perceived (34:00) - How Isabella Claimed Her Sexuality (38:35) - Fem Tech and Sex Tech Struggles (40:00) - 'Coming Out' About Sex Tech (45:00) - The Link Between Sexuality and Personal Freedom (50:00) - Pole Dance, Cambridge University and Castration (58:35) - COVID and Saying Yes

11 Helmi 1h 3min

MJ has been on a deep and fast ride into sexuality since an accident catalysed a self-investigation in 2019. She has since brought forth the Joyride Sex Parties and Socials, studied with the Institute for Sexuality, and has plans for expanding the world of sex tech. Join MJ and Eva Oh for a #teakink episode through MJ's discoveries, sex doll brothels, Irish sexuality, the sexual concerns of cis-het men, boundaries and pleasure.Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaohMore on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.comHIGHLIGHTS:Here are the timestamps for the video episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink(00:23) - Meet MJ of Joyride Sex Parties and Socials(02:00) - Taking it to Ireland(03:50) - Queerness at Joyride's Centre(08:10) - An Accident as a Sexuality Catalyst(12:55) - Sex Tech and Sex Doll Brothels(14:40) - The Future of Joyride(16:30) - Irish Storytelling(17:10) - Irish Sexuality(18:35) - Merging Sex Tech and the Physical(23:00) - Cis-het Men Healthy Porn Habits, Erectile Dysfunction and Loneliness(28:05) - The Viscerality of the Sex Party Dancefloor(29:00) - Safeguarding and Freedom in Clubs in Berlin vs London(32:50) - The Laboratory Berlin and the State of Queer Cruising(34:00) - The People Behind Joyride(35:30) - The Kink Coalitipn(37:00) - What Actually is a Sex Party?(42:00) - Why MJ Stays Out of the Playspace(49:00) - Berlin Porn Film Festival and the Venus Convention(51:00) - Sexual Education?(53:10) - Pleasure

4 Helmi 55min

This week on the #teakink Podcast, Eva Oh sits down with Mathilde Friis, curator and PhD researcher of art, sexuality, and sex work. We follow Mathilde into her early days, researching in a sex shop, and delve into the creative process behind sex work. We discover the contradictions in how society commodifies creativity while stigmatizing sex, and explore topics like slut-shaming on social media and the range of artistic interpretations of sex work. Mathilde also reflects on purity, danger, cultural etiquette, and why sexuality continues to spark controversy, challenging societal notions of monstrosity and taboo along the way. Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaoh More on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.com HIGHLIGHTS: Here are the timestamps for the video episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink (00:23) - Mathilde Friis, Curator and PhD Researcher on Artwork, Sexuality and Sex Work (01:40) - Mathilda's Interest in the Contradictions of Sexuality (03:40) - Doing Research in a Sex Shop (05:12) - Slut Shaming Research and Social Media (06:00) - Returning to Sexuality after a Commercial Art Gallery (08:00) - The 'Working Girls' Exhibition (10:15) - The Creative Practice of Sex Work (17:00) - How Society Allows us to Define and Commodify Creativity (20:30) - Sex Worker Honesty and Range in Artistic Interpretation (24:15) - How to Work with Sex Workers When You're Not One (31:00) - Purity, Danger ad Cultural Etiquette (35:00) - Why Does Sexuality Attract Controversy? (39:10) - What is Considered a Monstrosity in Current Society? (40:18) - Commodifying the Space Around Sexuality but not Sex Itself, on Meta (43:40) - Mathilda's Ambitions for Art and Sexuality

28 Tammi 48min

Eva Oh visits Dubai and is reminded of her first trip there in a previous life before her career as a Dominatrix. A life that included research work in Afghanistan, time at the United Nations and perhaps a thread that is still very consistent. A thread of curiosity, naivety, fearlessness and navigating the edge of life to feel out what could be. Watch this #teakink episode for an insight into Eva’s life before becoming a Professional Mistress. Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/evaohMore on Eva Oh: https://eva-oh.com HIGHLIGHTS:Here are the timestamps for the video episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time.(00:00) - Welcome. What is #teakink(00:23) - I’m In Dubai, Reflecting on a Previous Life(01:20) - My Hunger for Information, RSS Feeds and Innovation Journals(03:25) - Questioning and Fearlessness(04:35) - Dubai, A Digital Come Alive(05:50) - Working in Afghanistan(08:40) - My Life in My Own Hands(12:20) - Feeling the Foreign(15:20) - Navigating the Edge(19:30) - The Intrigue and Dangers of Professional Domination(21:30) - Dangers and Opportunities(22:20) - A Food Fetish(24:50) - Have I Changed?

21 Tammi 26min